How to give yourself the best chances in life
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The most persistent blockages to your progress usually come from a single source—yourself.
Here are some simple, practical ways to give yourself the best possible chance of living a good life.
- Take time to work out what’s most important to you. What’s so important you wouldn’t give it up, save in the most extreme circumstances? What feels like part of your deepest nature? What would hurt you to abandon? All these are core values. Think about them. Write ithem down. The more you satisfy them, the more fulfilling your life will be.
- Keep focusing on your strengths. What we focus on grows. If you focus on your weaknesses, they’ll grow too. You’ll keep finding more. Remember the rule: “Remove blockages. Avoid weaknesses.”
- Stop paying quite so much attention to how you feel. No one can control their emotions. If you spend too much attention on how you feel, you’ll be in a constant state of anxiety. If you feel good, you’ll start worrying about how to stay that way. If you feel bad, you’ll fret over how to feel better. You feel what you feel. Get over it. Just go on doing what you need to do, regardless of your emotions.
- Learn to let go. We all like to feel in control of events; to have stability and predictability in our lives. Give it up. It’s an illusion. Worse, it’s a dangerous one, because it encourages you to exhaust yourself trying to make things happen exactly as you want. You cannot do it, however hard you try. Accept what you cannot change and focus on what you can.
- Spend as much of your time as you can doing things that need to be done. Don’t worry too much what they are. The old saying, “success breeds success,” is true. Most people spend far too much time thinking about what they’re going to do—even planning it out—and too little time doing it. Don’t wait. Do what you need to do now. Then do some more. There’s no simpler way to turn your dreams into something tangible.
Most people get the essentials of life in the wrong order. They expect to feel good (or happy, or motivated) first; then, and only then, begin to tackle what they need to do. That makes all progress dependent on something as unpredictable and fleeting as a feeling.
If you do what you need to do first, regardless of your motivation or state of mind, you’ll find you’re more likely to feel better because you’ve just achieved something. Action produces feelings. Feelings only produce much action when you stop thinking about them and focus on what you need to do.
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