Archive for December, 2007
Emotional bruises
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Last Thursday, I wrote an article here about “hot buttons” — the hidden values and beliefs in our minds that trigger strong, even violent emotional responses when they are touched or triggered.
A while [...]
Hot Buttons
Everyone has Hot Buttons. They’re your tender spots; the places where you’re most sensitive; the points where you get irritated, or hurt, or angry, and have to respond. The trick to preventing them from messing up your day is awareness: the more aware you are of what rattles the bars of your cage, the [...]
Coping with Christmas critics
How to deal gracefully with people who don’t see what you see
At this time of year, many of us meet up with others whom we rarely see for the other 51 weeks: far-flung family members, scarcely-known neighbors, even unknowns at our places of work. Not all of these people are going to say things we [...]
How to slow down in everyday activities
Simple ways to live a slower life
Slowing down is one of the best ways to improve both your health and your outlook, especially when all the rush and pressure of this holiday time of year begin to increase feelings of stress.
Here are some simple ways to help yourself stay calm. None take extra effort and [...]
Superstition, success, and the stress they produce
Why superstition should be recognized as a significant cause of stress, especially in the lives of successful people
Successful, hard-driven people are often superstitious. Look at top sports stars. Many of them perform meaningless rituals before a game. The left shoe must go on before the right one. They must have their lucky rabbit‚€™s foot [...]
Build your own freedom
How to release yourself from the tyranny of events
Too many people spend their lives complaining about their supposed bad luck and whining how the world has deprived them of the chance to succeed. In time, they even convince themselves that none of what happens to them is caused by their actions, and that therefore nothing [...]
For better development, give yourself enough time
Time is the missing ingredient in too many self-development efforts
In all the topics discussed on the subject of personal development, one that rarely occurs is time: the necessity of giving yourself time to allow learning and development to take place. Time is an essential component in any change involving human beings. Despite all the rush [...]
Why isn’t life fun?
Serious shouldnÔøΩ€™t mean grim
Why are many people so grim about what they count as the “serious” aspects of life, especially anything connected with social standing, work, or money? ItÔøΩ’s as if they feel a duty to be glum in case smiling or enjoying themselves makes some jealous god fire thunderbolts at them or send down [...]
Are you putting your future on hold?
It‚€™s so easy to make excuses for not living as you know you can
Consider this scenario. It‚€™s taken you ten minutes to navigate through the automated customer service system. Ten minutes in which you‚€™ve hung up and re-dialed twice. But now you‚€™ve cracked the code and a real person has answered.
‚€œThank God,‚€ù you say. ‚€œLook, [...]
How to feel happier whenever you want
The first step is getting your thoughts under control
Let’s be plain: there is no way that you can control the thoughts that come into your mind, anymore than you can control what emotions arise. Anyone who says you can has never tried it.
Sure, you can try to think positive thoughts and avoid negative ones, [...]
