Work
A happy ship is an efficient ship
If you’re new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!If people are contented, they are more likely to form friendships, be prepared to help each other out, and spend time working out how they can solve problems together.
Watching the movie “In Which We Serve” I was interested [...]
Are time pressures causing you to opt out of life?
Are you a casualty of a fast-paced lifestyle?
If this sounds like you, it’s quite likely you don’t have time for more than the essentials, what relates to you personally. Getting things done allows no time out from your busy schedule.
What are the consequences of this approach to life?
You don’t notice when people are helpful to [...]
How busy lives ruin family relationships
When your child says, “I want to tell you something . . . ,” do you have time to listen?
We parents are caught in a bind. Trying to do the best for our children is often difficult and frustrating. We are busy running around on tight schedules. There are people who expect us to be [...]
Everyday fiction: thoughts on the stories we tell ourselves
When it comes to telling others what happened, do you prefer dull truth or exciting fiction?
Do you like to hear other people’s views of what’s happening in the news — or would you prefer to find out for yourself? Do you want the ‘truth’; or do you want a good story? How much of what [...]
Is it quitting time?
One of the greatest gifts is to recognize when you’re in the wrong place, or doing the wrong things, and find the courage to stop whatever that is and make a change without guilt or regret.
People don’t always get their lives right the first time. It’s nobody’s fault. Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. [...]
On Valentine’s Day: Random thoughts about love
How does love affect our working lives?
Love is a powerful emotion for which people are willing to kill and die.
I don’t mean just love for another person, still less sex. Love of money, love of power, love of glory and love of reputation all play major roles in how businesses run.
Let’s ignore sexual [...]
The secret to living well that too few people know
Giving up resentment and revenge are the keys to a better (and happier) life
Resentment is a form of reciprocal behavior: I’ll do to you what you did to me. It’s nursing a grudge and waiting until an opportunity occurs to pay the other person back in kind. During that time, the real or imagined [...]
How to build relationships that work
Other people are not broken . . . and nor are you
It’s tempting to think that your life would be better if only the people to deal with weren’t such a bunch of dysfunctional jerks. Tempting, but wrong. Other people aren’t broken and most aren’t dysfunctional either.
The reality is that it’s the way [...]
Some common mistakes in self-development
What to avoid if you really want to improve your abilities and outlook
This isn’t a complete or exhaustive list by any means. It’s just some of those that occur to me most easily (mostly because they’re mistakes I’ve made — sometimes several times). I hope they’ll help you avoid wasted time and frustration.
Don’t waste effort [...]
There’s no time like the present
Living in the future and the past
Most of us live in either the future or the past. We can’t feel happy unless we know that what’s ahead of us is going to make us feel good. We can’t let go of the past either, so it reaches forward to contaminate our present. Since the future [...]
